About the undistancing pledge

My hope in writing it

I was imagining this dialogue

“How do you want intimacy to work between us now?”

“I… I’m not exactly sure; it feels so complicated! I don’t really know where to start…”

and hoping it could sometimes continue this way

…“but I read this thing last night called the Undistancing Pledge, and it’s giving me some ideas.”

“The Undistancing Pledge?”

“Yeah, it’s… I’d say it’s a bunch of values and assumptions around intimacy in times of COVID; it won’t give us the magic formula, but I think it can start a good conversation. Shall we go through what we like and don’t like about it, and see where that takes us?”

“Sounds good. Shall I read it now?”

“Yeah, it’s not super long.”

About the resources

I realised that the pledge by itself could have been, in some situations, even more frustrating than nothing at all. It presupposes and requires certain abilities and perspectives around a host of topics like communication, care, a political approach to relationships, etc. So I wanted to include some of these resources to make it that much more likely that the world we want can be built right now, one interaction at a time.