Resources

Other writings about relationships in times of COVID-19

• Evelin Dacker MD, COVID Care
• Gideon Lichfield, A guide to negotiating a covid “bubble” with other people
• Libby Sinback, Thinking About Expanding Your Polyamorous Quaranteam?
• Angela Lashbrook, Is it Safe to “Quaranteam”

Having difficult conversations

• The Gottman Institute, Dr. Gottman’s 3 Skills (and 1 Rule!) for Intimate Conversation
• The Gottman Institute, The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
• Adar Cohen, 3 steps to having difficult — but necessary — conversations
• Daniel H. Cohen, For argument’s sake TED Talk

Boundaries and consent

• Miri Mogilevsky, 5 Ways to Navigate Consent with a Partner Who Has Trouble Setting Boundaries

Mental health

• Sam Dylan Finch, 10 Ways to ‘Reach Out’ When You’re Struggling With Your Mental Health
• kylarosesims, When Your Partner Has Anxiety. A Meltdown Guide

Calling in, calling out, saying sorry

• Cliff Pervocracy, Just one ally.
• Ngọc Loan Trần, Calling IN: A Less Disposable Way of Holding Each Other Accountable
• Franchesca Ramsey, How to Apologize When You Get Called Out
• Nora Samaran, Own, Apologize, Repair: Coming Back to Integrity

Privilege

• Parul Sehgal, How ‘Privilege’ Became a Provocation

Care and loneliness

• Caleb Luna, Romantic Love is Killing Us: Who Takes Care of Us When We Are Single?
• Kitty Stryker, “Radical Self-Reliance” Is Killing People
• Mia Mingus, Pods and Pod Mapping Worksheet

Emotions

• Scott Barry Kaufman, One Skeptical Scientist’s Mindfulness Journey
• Rick Hanson, How to Hardwire Resilience into Your Brain
• Kelly McGonigal, How to make stress your friend TED talk
• Stacey Kennelly, 10 Steps to Savoring the Good Things in Life
• Meg-John Barker , Other People’s Feelings

Practical information about COVID-19

• WHO, Coronavirus
• U. Minnesota Center for Infectious Disease Reseach and Policy, COVID-19 Resource Center
• NHS, COVID-19
• Financial Times, Coronavirus tracked: the latest figures as countries fight to contain the pandemic
• I’ve been compiling some of the basic information about SARS-CoV-2 and COVID-19 in the form of an Anki flash card deck.